Resilient Roots Blog

Lucy Bui, Counseling Student Intern Lucy Bui, Counseling Student Intern

The Hidden Impact of Our Phones: How Awareness Can Heal Our Minds and Emotions

Our phones are more than just tools—they're emotional triggers. From late-night scrolling to endless notifications, our devices can subtly drain our mental energy and disrupt emotional balance. But awareness is the first step toward healing. By practicing mindful phone use, we can reclaim our focus, improve our mood, and restore our emotional well-being. This post explores the hidden impact of our phones and offers simple strategies to reconnect with ourselves in a healthier way.

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

3 Things I’ve Learned From Helping Clients Heal From Sexual Trauma

Sexual trauma reshapes how survivors see themselves, their bodies, and their relationships. As a therapist, I’ve learned that healing from sexual trauma means more than just moving past the pain — it’s about reclaiming your voice, your power, and your sense of safety. In this post, I share three essential lessons from working with survivors of sexual assault and how trauma-informed therapy can help you reconnect with yourself and begin to heal.

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Mental Health Reminders for High-Achieving Women

High-achieving women are often celebrated for their ambition and resilience—but success can sometimes come at the cost of peace. This post offers gentle, research-based reminders to help you reconnect with yourself, care for your mental health, and find worth beyond what you do.

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Sidney Johnson, Counseling Student Intern Sidney Johnson, Counseling Student Intern

How to Keep Growing When Your World Isn’t Changing

“Growth doesn’t always look like a big life change. Sometimes it’s setting a boundary, shifting your perspective, or learning patience while the world around you stays the same. Even if your environment feels stuck, you can still keep moving forward with small, intentional steps that honor your progress. Therapy, journaling, mindfulness, and goal-setting can help you see that transformation is happening—even if it’s not visible yet.”

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Why Your Partner Is Walking All Over You: The Balance of Power, Love, and Justice in Relationships

“If you feel like your partner is “walking all over you,” the issue may not be you—or them—it may be an imbalance of power, love, and justice in your relationship. Restoration Therapy teaches that true intimacy requires all three. Without balance, love can become enabling, power can turn controlling, and justice can shift into resentment. Here’s how to restore harmony and strengthen your relationship.”

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Love Across Cultures: Dating Beyond Race and Nationality

“Intercultural and interracial dating can be deeply rewarding, but it also comes with unique challenges. From navigating cultural expectations to spotting red and green flags in your relationship, this post explores what it really takes to build a healthy connection across cultures.”

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Self-Regulation vs. Co-Regulation: Why I Encourage Clients to Prioritize Self-Regulation in Couples Therapy

"Your spouse is your partner, not your parent.
Co-regulation—when someone else’s actions or emotions help you calm down—has its place in healthy relationships. But as adults, emotional maturity means taking responsibility for your own peace. In couples therapy, I guide partners to prioritize self-regulation—anchoring in their own values and truth—so they can show up for each other from a place of stability, not dependency. When you self-regulate, you don’t just manage your emotions; you transform your relationship."

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Being a Therapist Who Actually Goes to Therapy (Yes, Really) & 6 Takeaways From Last Week’s Sessions

"Yes, I’m a therapist—and yes, I go to therapy. Some weeks, my biggest takeaways aren’t from textbooks but from lived moments, mine and my clients’. From learning that ghosting can be self-protection, to realizing the most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself, therapy keeps teaching me that healing is both science and soul work… with a little humor thrown in (my therapist is basically my clients’ grandtherapist)."

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

Healing Mama Wounds: Navigating Black Mother-Daughter Relationships

"You can love your mother and still feel hurt by the way she parented you. For many African and Black daughters, cultural expectations, generational trauma, and patriarchal norms shape this complex bond. Healing ‘mama wounds’ begins with self-awareness, grace, and rewriting your own story."

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Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate Bisola Adediji, M.Sc., LMFT-Associate

“Secrets, Silence, and Spirituality”: 3 Things I’ve Learned as a Nigerian Therapist Working With Nigerian Clients

"As a first-generation Nigerian-American therapist, I’ve walked alongside clients whose stories echo pieces of my own—stories formed at the intersections of culture, faith, and migration. Time and again, three patterns emerge: the silence we were taught to keep, the invisible wounds of immigration, and the spiritual confusion born from unspoken fears. In therapy, I’ve seen that healing doesn’t require abandoning culture—it often begins when we reclaim our voices, honor our pain, and hold both faith and mental wellness with compassion."

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